I was thinking about this concept the other day! About all the work we go through to get through just one day, let alone work like crazy to fix our bodies once life has got ahold of us. Then, how some people turn against us once we are, for a while- on the other side of the struggle. How people can champion the cause while the battle rages, but once won- they turn away or decide what we must be feeling now. This part of the journey I have found very lonely in my life. The 'graduation', or the no longer fitting in. I try not to think about these things... Alyce.
Beautifully stated my friend. It is so true. I do know the loneliness that you speak of. It reigns true for so many things. Just now I find myself in a somewhat lonelier place not that I'm taking my writing more seriously. Most of my friends know I write, but many do not fully understand how serious I am about my writing and how hard I am working to create a new and more fulfilling life for me and my son. So when I speak on those things there is little to be said. It goes the same way with weight loss. Now that I am on a more serious path with my efforts, there are fewer and fewer around to share my journey with. It is hard not to think about these things sometimes. When I do think of these things, I remind myself of something I've witnessed over the past few years. Misery loves company and happiness...happiness thrives in company and solidarity. In other words, those who have not yet achieved may feel the need to sulk and fall back to old ways, licking their wounds in the company of the like minded. Where you who have graduated are now on a new path to meeting new people who have graduated too. You will celebrate together while at the same time embracing and embarking on a beautiful path of the unknown. You will meet again. Happiness comes together for a moment and then returns to the venture fully ready, focused and filled with hope as the journey continues. Happiness always links to happiness.
Have you noticed that happiness comes in strings or strands or in succession like a path or straight line where as misery clusters and is without direction?
No matter how many graduations you are blessed to experience know that those of us who are on a happy path will always be with you and celebrate you.
Oh, I left out part of my thought. In speaking of the straight path of happiness as opposed to the clustered path of misery. Happiness or accomplishment may seem lonely, but that is only because your path is straight. It may seem lonely because the path of happiness takes a lot of focus and there are few distractions which is what leads to success. However, with each success there will be times of coming together to celebrate triumphs. It just seems lonely because there are so few distractions. I may be wrong in my thoughts, but this came to me recently and it seems to make sense to me regarding my situation. I don't know. What do you think of this theory?
Oh! I LOVE, LOVE ,LOVE your theory!! It puts a logical explanation on the feelings of lonliness and takes it out of the area where I feel badly to one of feeling empowered! Most excellent!!! ..Alyce
I'm so glad! :-) You're doing so well and I want you to feel empowered, as you should. Happiness is a very interesting thing and one that I hope to learn more about. Hugs to you and have a wonderful evening!
I was thinking about this concept the other day! About all the work we go through to get through just one day, let alone work like crazy to fix our bodies once life has got ahold of us. Then, how some people turn against us once we are, for a while- on the other side of the struggle. How people can champion the cause while the battle rages, but once won- they turn away or decide what we must be feeling now. This part of the journey I have found very lonely in my life. The 'graduation', or the no longer fitting in. I try not to think about these things... Alyce.
ReplyDeleteBeautifully stated my friend. It is so true. I do know the loneliness that you speak of. It reigns true for so many things. Just now I find myself in a somewhat lonelier place not that I'm taking my writing more seriously. Most of my friends know I write, but many do not fully understand how serious I am about my writing and how hard I am working to create a new and more fulfilling life for me and my son. So when I speak on those things there is little to be said. It goes the same way with weight loss. Now that I am on a more serious path with my efforts, there are fewer and fewer around to share my journey with. It is hard not to think about these things sometimes. When I do think of these things, I remind myself of something I've witnessed over the past few years. Misery loves company and happiness...happiness thrives in company and solidarity. In other words, those who have not yet achieved may feel the need to sulk and fall back to old ways, licking their wounds in the company of the like minded. Where you who have graduated are now on a new path to meeting new people who have graduated too. You will celebrate together while at the same time embracing and embarking on a beautiful path of the unknown. You will meet again. Happiness comes together for a moment and then returns to the venture fully ready, focused and filled with hope as the journey continues. Happiness always links to happiness.
ReplyDeleteHave you noticed that happiness comes in strings or strands or in succession like a path or straight line where as misery clusters and is without direction?
No matter how many graduations you are blessed to experience know that those of us who are on a happy path will always be with you and celebrate you.
Oh, I left out part of my thought. In speaking of the straight path of happiness as opposed to the clustered path of misery. Happiness or accomplishment may seem lonely, but that is only because your path is straight. It may seem lonely because the path of happiness takes a lot of focus and there are few distractions which is what leads to success. However, with each success there will be times of coming together to celebrate triumphs. It just seems lonely because there are so few distractions. I may be wrong in my thoughts, but this came to me recently and it seems to make sense to me regarding my situation. I don't know. What do you think of this theory?
DeleteOh! I LOVE, LOVE ,LOVE your theory!! It puts a logical explanation on the feelings of lonliness and takes it out of the area where I feel badly to one of feeling empowered! Most excellent!!! ..Alyce
DeleteI'm so glad! :-) You're doing so well and I want you to feel empowered, as you should. Happiness is a very interesting thing and one that I hope to learn more about. Hugs to you and have a wonderful evening!
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